The Friendly 15: Advice for Facebook

1) You don’t have to accept every friend request or do everything people tell you to do.  You just don’t have to.

2) If you are going through difficult times and don’t want people “in your business,” don’t post about it. When you post your difficulty or air your rant or rave, you have invited the world into your business.

3) You don’t have to comment on stuff that offends you. Not commenting lets things float down Social Media River and dump into forgotten depths of Cyberspace Ocean; commenting keeps it in your feed and keeps you in the drama.

4) Don’t post “sure to be controversial” or hateful stuff and then get offended by the controversial or hateful responses that WILL follow. Don’t dish out what you don’t want to eat.

5. If you struggle with low self esteem, don’t post things asking others to do things that are sure to hurt your feelings or disappoint you.

6. Don’t get upset when people unfriend you. That happens in real life too.

7. Unfriending or unsubscribing to someone is perfectly acceptable. You don’t need reasons.  You don’t owe people explanations.

8. Most people don’t want you to send them game requests or be included in groups or have you try to sell them stuff. Or be made to feel guilty if they don’t re-post stuff. Or get the social media version of chain letters… The list goes on and on and on.

9. Don’t assume Facebook is a good way to contact people directly. People think I know stuff I don’t know all the time. I get only a fraction of the posts made by my friends.

10. Keeping up with the lives of friends and family is the best thing about Facebook. People love it when good things happen to good people!

11. Faith is a wonderful thing to share but pushing too hard and too often is normally counterproductive evangelism. Share but don’t shove things down people’s modem.

12. Asking for prayer on Facebook is a wonderful thing. But please keep people up on the request. Lots of people actually pray and care deeply! If you ask us to pray, let us celebrate answered prayer with you.

13. Let us laugh with you! We all need more laughter.

14. Don’t worry about privacy on Facebook.  That ship sailed the moment you activated an account.  You are public.

15. If Facebook adds value to your life, engage it! If it doesn’t, deactivate your account (so someone can take it over in your name and try to sell your friends sunglasses).


Rant. Pontificate. Hate.


Love. Laugh. Celebrate.

What might you add?



-Rev. Shane L. Bishop is the Sr. Pastor of Christ Church in Fairview Heights, IL



Published by Rev. Shane L. Bishop

Senior Pastor of Christ Church, Fairview Heights, IL since 1997. I am an orthodox Christian but I am not in a bad mood about it.

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