Here are some quick but poignant thoughts on self awareness (or the lack thereof) from a recent message on Joseph as they apply to Social Media:
What many call “other awareness” is a blind side for many people. It represents the potentially serious gap between how we think others see us and how others actually see us.
Social Media is a real challenge for people who lack other awareness.
Some people consistently post things that make them seem needy, weak, imbalanced, pitiful and pathetic and then they wonder why people think they are needy, weak, imbalanced, pitiful and pathetic.
Other people post unbelievably insensitive, rude, un-compassionate or divisive things and wonder why people think they are insensitive, rude, un-compassionate and divisive.
Unsure if this applies to you? Take a critical look at your last fifteen Facebook posts. It will most certainly be clear one way or the other.
If a lack of self-awareness is your self diagnosis, let me offer a potential prescription.
First, decide what your mission is concerning Social Media. My mission statement is to: “Display an authentic, joy filled and full Christian life.” Anything not in keeping with that mission, does not get posted. Secondly, find two or three people who love you enough to be honest with you and share your mission statement with them. Ask them to monitor your posts and give them permission to give you a personal message “red flag” if a particular post of yours is “off mission.”
By being honest with ourselves, determining what the role of social media should be in our lives and getting a little help from our friends, we can enjoy all the benefits of Social Media, without adding to the drama on one hand and without adding additional drama to our lives on the other.
-Rev. Shane L. Bishop is the Senior Pastor of Christ Church in Fairview Heights, Illinois